As you read this maybe you are in love, looking for love or swearing off all romance and love. All of the latter can be true or none of it can be true for you. All experiences are welcome.

Queer Black Feminist writer bell hooks beautifully and deeply explored love in all about love. Last month I read hooks’ all about love, and felt moved by hooks’ observations on love.

Be still. Listen.

The wind blows through the city steadily, whispering from the north, only deterred/rerouted by tall, urban walls. Flakes of snow ride on the wind. They are thin, wispy, hardly of substance, but their persistent falling accumulates flake by flake on the frozen ground.

My boots crunch on thick ice as they sink beneath the freshly powdered surface. Like walking through thick desert sand, snow walking is an endurance sport where each step is just as much an inch backward as it is an  inch forward. “Trudge” is the word I think.

This is winter, the way I used to know it.

Like you, we are heartbroken with the news of Sunday’s senseless violence and hate against the LGBTQ+ community at Club Q in Colorado Springs. We know this is a huge loss of family and a safe place for trans and queer folks in the Springs. Please know, you are not alone. We stand with you. We mourn with you. We are here for you.

You are not alone.

 Trevor Project: Call or text to talk to someone
LGBT National Hotline
Colorado Crisis Services: Text “Talk” to 38255
​Trans Lifeline: (877) 565-8860
National Victims of Violent Crimes:1-202-467-8700

It’s that time of year again, the magical, cozy start of winter. The best season of the year. Am I right?!

We just got through mid-term elections, sitting on pins and needles, and now we’re looking at the calendar like, “How the hell is it Thanksgiving already?!” You may have already started getting the questions from friends, “What are you doing for the holidays?” “You want to hang out?” “We should get together!” "Let's do friends-giving!"

Or an SMS from your sister who was counting on you to have her back when she stands up to Uncle Larry's homophobia at the dinner table...

So you moved in together, got married, or are in a long-term relationship. Things were going great, but recently something has shifted and changed. Either that passion has faded or conversations are more and more becoming heated arguments. You still love your partner, but are wondering, "How do we make things better?" 

I (Lindsay) work with couples and partners experiencing relationship stress and difficulty communicating. Together, we work to understand different relationship dynamics and practice new skills. But what is couples therapy and how can it help? This article will answering some commonly asked questions to help you know if couples therapy or marriage counseling is right for you and your partner.