Life happens. We get into a roll and things just "float on okay," says Modest Mouse. But sometimes we want more than just "okay" in our relationships! What happens all too often in our relationships is that as the responsibilities change and increase, the fun decreases. However, there are simple things you can do to change that. Here is a fun exercise to practice with your partner to increase connection and intentionally put fun back into your relationship!

Think about the beginning of your relationship. What were some of the things you and your partner enjoyed doing back then? Was it traveling? Trying new restaurants? Hiking 14ers?

Got some good memories rolling around, yet? Good! Next step...

Relationships are foundational and ever present in our lives. Even if you choose to move to the mountains, get away from it all, far far away from all the people, you still have some relating to do, mainly with yourself but possibly with mountain lions. I'm no expert on human/mountain lion relationships. (The cats that let me live in their house daily remind me of my neglect of their needs when their food bowls drop below "full" level.) However, I do have extensive training, expertise, and experience supporting human relationships. All joking aside, relationship are beautiful but hard, especially post-pandemic. We just went through a profoundly challenging few years and it has taken a toll on our most important relationships in our lives. If you're feeling relationship stress right now, I get it. It makes sense. Now that we are out of the pandemic and not fighting to survive, it is the best time to start rebuilding those relationships with the ones you love the most. I've compiled 7 commonly asked questions about couples therapy. Below, I will share about what to expect in relationship therapy and how you and your partner can start rebuilding connection and mutual love today!

As you read this maybe you are in love, looking for love or swearing off all romance and love. All of the latter can be true or none of it can be true for you. All experiences are welcome.

Queer Black Feminist writer bell hooks beautifully and deeply explored love in all about love. Last month I read hooks’ all about love, and felt moved by hooks’ observations on love.

Be still. Listen.

The wind blows through the city steadily, whispering from the north, only deterred/rerouted by tall, urban walls. Flakes of snow ride on the wind. They are thin, wispy, hardly of substance, but their persistent falling accumulates flake by flake on the frozen ground.

My boots crunch on thick ice as they sink beneath the freshly powdered surface. Like walking through thick desert sand, snow walking is an endurance sport where each step is just as much an inch backward as it is an  inch forward. “Trudge” is the word I think.

This is winter, the way I used to know it.

Like you, we are heartbroken with the news of Sunday’s senseless violence and hate against the LGBTQ+ community at Club Q in Colorado Springs. We know this is a huge loss of family and a safe place for trans and queer folks in the Springs. Please know, you are not alone. We stand with you. We mourn with you. We are here for you.

You are not alone.

 Trevor Project: Call or text to talk to someone
LGBT National Hotline
Colorado Crisis Services: Text “Talk” to 38255
​Trans Lifeline: (877) 565-8860
National Victims of Violent Crimes:1-202-467-8700